Thursday, July 29, 2010
Tips for cultivating kindness
By: Marissa Anteby
In order to evoke a feeling of good will towards others, you must first have a positive relationship with yourself. This may seem silly. In fact, most people don't really think about it. After all, working hard on your relationship with your spouse, friends, parents, siblings, kids, colleagues, ok... that makes sense, but working on how you treat yourself? Have we as an analytical society gone too far? I don't think so.
Consider how your other relationships benefit from your contemplative awareness. Don't you deserve that same kind of mindfulness? What if you were as patient with yourself as you are with everyone else? What would your internal chatter be like if you slowed down and gave yourself a chance to make mistakes without berating yourself instantaneously? How would this alter your feelings and actions? On the flip side, what about the times you are too easy on yourself and you let yourself get away with too much. What would it be like to have to answer to a stronger more responsible you? Both instances, have to do with kindness. A kind heart knows that happiness is in the balance, not being too hard on yourself or too soft.
Find ways to incorporate more activities that you truly enjoy in to your life. The happier you are, the happier everyone around you will be. Make it a healthy habit, become inclined to be kind!